Breakup At 50. Survival Guide.
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Be Free and Be Happy. What to do and what to avoid.
Hi everyone,
I’ve decided to write a guide for everyone, who is going through a breakup or a divorce and who is over 50.
As you know, I am in Germany, and in Germany, some things are very complicated, and even if you are peaceful and want just to get over it, it is not easy and nearly impossible. So, I am talking about a divorce.
I am writing this post to help some of you, who gets desperate looking in the future, feels embattled and confused not understanding the world anymore.
Some time ago my almost ex-husband gave me the best gift ever.
He informed me that he got to know another woman and wants a divorce.
As soon as I’ve overcome the devastating awareness of being on my own and being 50, I realized how valuable and precious was that moment. I became free again and got another chance to rewrite my life.
Schadenfreude
Just for the sake of it and because of the “schadenfreude,” the lovely lady having three kids of her own broke up with my almost ex-husband. It’s incredible how some people, without knowledge or education, can trail an abusive toxic sociopathic teenager in my husband and brake up with him already after three weeks of romance. I respect this woman and wish her all the best from the bottom of my heart; She freed me.
And yet you think how is it possible, that the person you gave so much of yourself can be so cruel, mendacious and untrustworthy.
Yes, it is possible, because your male doesn’t care anymore. And that’s it. Now he is your hostile, your opponent – nothing else.
Here is some advice for the emotional ones.
Read something about emotional intelligence. You’ll realize the emotional patterns that we all go through. They are always the same.
You will be surprised just to put it kindly, or shocked, then you’ll be sad. Then you’ll get on your way and begin making the decisions. So let all these phases go faster. Don’t cry a river over a man. It’s not worth it. Put yourself together and go on with your life.
50 years old now -I know for sure how fast the time goes by bringing along aging and tiredness. Spent your time on your life and not on sadness. It doesn’t pay off trying to put the broken cup together. Look around, and you’ll see people who worship and love you, who will be on your side through the difficult times.
The life is as good as you want it to be. Please want to be happy, just want it, and you will be.
Life is a weird business. You do your best, and in some cases, you do fail.
I got married in 2009 as a very grown-up person, and still, I’ve made the stupidest and the most common mistake among us women.
Just because I hadn’t had such experience ever in my life, I got a toxic person as a husband. Quite some time passed by, as I stopped believing, that my husband is not a bad man, but just stupid.
How to spot the toxic person.
If you are interested and you want to save yourself from making the same and obvious mistake as I did, click on the link below. It will take you to a guy, who explains how to spot the toxic person.
I couldn’t put it in better words, describing my ex-husband.
And of course I’ve made a mistake, which Matthew mentions – I thought I were a strong and intelligent person and I could deal with my ex. Wrong.
In the end, I was was terrified thinking how would I be able to survive every single day when my ex retires. These thoughts were absolutely devastating. The weekends were the worst days in a week.
Matthew Hussey:
Breakup At 50. Survival Guide.
Having blessed with a strong character and the survival qualities I was sure to be able to stand the things I didn’t like from the very beginning. Was sure to be able to change the behavioral patterns of a man. The worst mistake of all was the thought that I could communicate and express myself in an easily understandable way and the life would get perfect.
Don't ever think you can communicate with a male without a special training to do so.
And even then you need to be prepared to be ignored, not listened to. Some of the male species are very contradictable. They need you to lead, they rely on your ways and yet they don’t want to accept your leadership.
O.K.I am talking about my case. There are so many women, who suffer physical abuse and things like that. I really don’t want to talk about these extreme cases.
Don't ever make a mistake thinking that you can change anything about your male.
It’s not possible as long as it is not wanted by a male himself and he asks you to help him.
Ja, ja, how often does that happen? –
Exactly. You get my point?
Stay aware and know for sure!
If a male swears, he will do it for the rest of his life. If he is vulgar, don’t think that you’ll explain to him that it is wrong and he will change.
If he goes through his life without looking back at the ruins he leaves, one day the ruins will be yourself.
So please, save you the disappointment and know that you get what you see. If you don’t like 40% of what you see, please let it be. Turn away and run. The right person can be waiting for you just around the corner, so don’t be satisfied with the less than you deserve.
Remember -
A man doesn’t change. Ever. Not even a little bit and not even for you, regardless how strong you are, you will get tired of that 40 %.
Be sure, in our modern world, it doesn’t matter how old you are. People fall in love in their 70es and find happiness in the togetherness at the end of their way.
I know this amazing Lady. She met her soulmate 1,5 years ago, as she was 82 years old. She is very happy now, every time I see her I see these very bright little stars of excitement in her eyes as she talks about her friend and partner. She is in love in her 80es.
That taught me something.
Miracles Happen!
I’m sorry if somebody thinks, that the following is nonsense. I am just talking and telling you what is in my heart. I fully believe in everything I say here. Here it is:
"Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. "
You know exactly where it is coming from.
You are right, from the Bible – the book of all the books. In modern language it is called the Law of Attraction.
It has been working for me all my life, and it’s working for me now. The only reason why it shouldn’t work is that someone maybe doesn’t know what to wish.
Maybe it is wishful thinking on my part; maybe it is a deception of my own mind, maybe it is the mental reward for the last hard years. Maybe it is an invisible touch of the universe. One would say “God”. But just at the right moment I was reassured, that it is the beginning for me, all my dreams are just beginning to come true.
Does it make sense? I am trying to say a lot without revealing the actual facts.
At this point I want to say my big Thank You to this person, who made me remember. I am very grateful. You reminded me of everything what I was, what I believed in before I decided to know better and got married so wrongly. And it is not that I wasn’t warned by the same invisible touch. I was so tired and got married for all the wrong reasons.
Be sure
It doesn’t matter where you are, It doesn’t matter what you do and what is happening around you.
If you want to be happy, just be happy. Nobody and nothing is responsible for your life, only you. Be direct with your wishes, know exactly what you want and see for yourself where you want to be. It will not take too long and you’ll receive what you’re asking for.
It is working for me. There is no reason why it shouldn’t work for you.
Fun Part
If you are still with me and still reading, you should be rewarded.
Here is a short list of a few books I’ve read lately, they made my life partly fun.
These books are very enjoyable and merry. They did helped me to understand some things, which about I was wondering for many years. I’ve got some fun and true answers to many questions I had throughout my life.
Try one of them, doesn’t matter which one. You will smile, laugh and be cheered up while reading and long after.
Good Luck and stay focused. It is just the beginning!
…23“Truly I tell you that if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Be lifted up and thrown into the sea,’ and has no doubt in his heart but believes that it will happen, it will be done for him.
24Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. 25And when you stand to pray, if you hold anything against another, forgive it, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your trespasses as well.”…
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.
Click on the picture, if you want to check out a book.
Please don't hesitate to ask any questions or leave a comment and good luck.
Lord, bless us all!
